An update by popular demand…well one demand…lol
Brooke says I should write more about my parenting style. I like talking about that but I have other things on my mind so I will seperate my children’s updates and my crazy parenting thoughts with a line and underneath will be my venting.
I want to be the loud mother on the soccer field and even though my girls will be embarassed one day they will appreciate all I did. I have started the trend now. When we go to carnivals and such I scream, yell, wave, take pictures, and blow kisses everytime they go around. The other parents are always quiet but I want my girls to know I’m proud of them. Of course at 2 and 1 they like when mommy gets excited but I’m sure as they get older this will not be so welcome.
I try to let my daughters have as much freedom as I can and include them in everything. I kiss them every chance I get. I make up crazy songs and sing them all day long. I go in the play tunnels with my girls at McDonalds. I make up words for different things, we radomly dance, sometimes the girls will chase me around the dinning room table for 15 minutes until I’m out of breath. In the summer we sit in the car (its parked and in the drive way…for those who might be concerned) and I let the girls pretend to drive. I’m working on giving the girls chores. For example the baby throws her own diapers in the trash and they both help pick up their toys.
This one always seems to get everyone’s underwear in a bunch but its my blog and my opinion so I’ll say it. If you CAN breastfeed and you don’t then you are not doing whats best for your child. And someone who doesn’t do whats best for her baby (if it is within her means) is a bad parent. Now lets go back to the if you can breastfeed part, less than 1% of women truly cannot breastfeed. I’m sure that number is more if you count those on contradicting medcines but I take anit-rejection meds and I breastfed two preemies. And with that said not only should you breastfeed but you need to do it for a year. I get sick when I see formula fed babies, not only are they not doing what is best for their child but their child is more likely to get sick and then more likely to make my breastfed child sick.
Vaccines, My oldest is partially vaxed and my youngest has never had one. Not only did she never suffer any of the horrible disease but even if she did I wouldn’t take her when she was on her death bed we’d get treatment early and then she would have a mercury free natural immunity. Contrary to popular belief vaccines are NOT mercury free, they are still made with it and it is then filtered out. If the level is below a certain amount the government allows the vaccine to be labeled mercury free. Not only that the shots are made with many other toxic substances that humans shouldn’t have in their body. Some of you may not know this tid bit of info either but one of the shots (MMR I believe) was made from an aborted fetus. I guess that is okay if your are pro-choice but us pro-lifers out there could be supporting abortion with out even knowing. Now I leave you with this last piece of information. I NEVER suggest that someone not vaccinate their child. The diseases your child can get are scary and they can die. But I do encourage others to research it.
CIO, or crying it out as it is commonly known. Babies need attention and for someone to think that they should only cry when the need fed or changed is an idiot. This can be detrimental to very young babies. I do find that CIO does have its place in parenting, if you find your self getting angry, frustrated, or any bad thoughts you should let your baby cry. One night of crying will not have the lasting effect of shaken baby syndrome.
Nursing in public, yes of course I nurse my toddler in public, uncovered but still discreetly. Of course if someone is going to gauk at me then they probably will see something but the normal passerby would never notice and would probably think I was cuddling my baby. I don’t see anything wrong with using a cover if that makes you more comfortable. But I do think it is utterly disgusting to nurse in a bathroom. YUCK YUCK YUCK!!!
I don’t co-sleep but if I could I would. I cannot sleep with my children in my bed. They kick and hit and I never get to sleep but I do think if you can co-sleep that it is one of the best things you can do for your child.
Schedule feeding, or Ezzo’s method of parenting. I encourage you too look up Ezzo if you are thinking of trying his methods of parenting. He encourages CIO and Schedule feeding which is linked to failure to thrive. Not only that but he has a bad record, he was ex-communicated from a church and doesn’t speak with a few of his children. Babywise is the non-secular version of his book Growing kids God’s way. The only difference between the two is the references to God are taken out and he has an actual doctor as the co-author but none of the pertinent info from the secular book was changed.
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ERASED….I HAVE A FEELING SOMEONE FROM MY REAL LIFE IS STALKING ME (AND I DON’T MEAN MY HUSBAND).
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MM, (Thank you, and I LOVE it!)
I think ANY type of interaction with your children is a bonding issue, and that’s what makes WONDERFUL relationships, later in lifetime. I love your parenting style, and I love that YOU love your “job.” The better the relationship with your children when they’re young, the better it will be when they’re older. So, that being said, when children start adolescence, (sp?), they will be less likely to rebell because of this. I’ve witnessed kids, whose parents had LITTLE to do with them growing up, turn into junkies; however, I’ve also witnessed hands-on parenting, parents who had EVERYTHING to do with their children’s upbringing, and they grew into good, productive, and honest people, making an honest living. ANOTHER thing I love is that you are using your breasts for the EXACT purpose for which they were made. I LOVE that you love it, breastfeeding, and that you DON’T consider it a chore, like most women do! When I read, in one of your posts, that you wanted to be “a bicycle built for two”, so to speak, I thought that it was way cool, and a great aspiration! In other words, you wanted to breastfeed both babies, at one time, even though it didn’t “go” as planned. That is correct, isn’t it? I have questions/comments about some of the other things mentioned, but I have to get “the boy” up, and ready for the day. We’ll talk later…Thanks for sharing, as I’ve been “haunting” your blog for new information about parenting ideas, useful information, (hubby issues) but, mostly, the entertaining stories.
Peace,
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoBrooke
I’m not sure what you meant by the “bicycle meant for two” I don’t think I said that (but I also have a horrible memory so I might have). Although I did want to tandem nurse, after months of a horrible thrush infection with cracked and bleeding nipples I gave up when my oldest was 10 months. I miss it dearly it also the best parenting tool ever, if baby/toddler cries put a boob in their mouth and they stop. I found most ailments can be cured by the boob.
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoNo, you didn’t say that, “a bicycle built for two,” I did. You said something along those lines, two at one time; however, you used a specific word, and it started with a “T.” In other words, two breastfeeding at once, just like two people riding a bike built for two…Do you see the similarity?
MM, I don’t know about that little problem with that name. It’s being fixed, as we speak. Actually, it’s already fixed, but “they” said it would take 24 hours. I’ll explain everything in a letter. I’ve been very upset about it, and I’ve already completed my return letter, but I’m not sending it until the problem is fixed. Even though I’ve already finished the letter, I don’t like it because there was a lot that was misunderstood, in my last letter to you. The computer I’m using isn’t really our computer, and there’s more to this, but…
Anyway, somehow my message of being sexy, attractive, and looking your best got messed up with wearing makeup, and that’s NOT even close to what I was referring to. As for Karma,…well, I think you got a little taste of that, but WE all have, and that’s the reason I don’t judge. That’s not for me to do, and IF I DO THIS, judge people, Karma is going to kick me in the teeth. (There’s) more in the letter…
Peace,
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoBrooke
Okay, I was in a hurry, last comment, but I will try to break it down because it’s a little confusing. Karma, a part of my religion, goes: what comes around, goes around, and what goes around, comes around, and I see, from your letter to me, that you got a taste of that, regarding the crying-baby story. Also, YOU ARE THE FIRST to tell me that about my letters having that name on them. I can only express, and I know you can’t see this, how troubled I am about this. UGH! I almost started crying when you pointed that out because I’m such a perfectionist, which you know, and when things aren’t RIGHT, my heart breaks, and it just irked me. Anyway, I’m NO priss, trust what I say, and believe this! Even though I may look prissy, uh, at 5′3”, 110lbs (approximately), I can “roll” with the best of them. Just because a woman wears makeup, does not entitle her to “priss status.” Actually, I hardly wear any makeup, if you can tell by the picture. I only wear a tad of eye and lip color. That’s it. I know you said that you don’t get offended easily, and I hope that’s true because I’m hoping I don’t sound like a b!t*h. I guess I was just stunned when you thought, outloud, that I was a prissy girl. (I’m) FAR FROM IT! It really hasn’t been the best day for me, so, again, please, don’t be offended by anything I wrote that may sound as if it’s offensive. Okay? I’m sorry, in advance, if it turns out to be true, that you are offended. Oh, I’m a worrier, too. Did you notice? UGH…I can’t win for losing…SHEESH…
Peace,
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoBROOKE, yes, Brooke, no matter how you write it…
When I said I’m not prissy I didn’t mean that you were : ) Sorry that I upset you so. You did make it sound as if you wouldn’t be caught dead with out make-up and such. But you could also take it as a compliment.
Hope this isn’t offensive either but your right you do worry alot. Let the little things go. I don’t mind if you misspell half of everything you write or if you don’t use correct punctuation. I’m not the queen or the president being formal isn’t required.
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoOh, now wait a minute, here! I DO NOT misspell half of everything I “right”, per your spelling…LOL…Not only are my spelling-skills
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoI said I don’t CARE IF you misspell everything you write. Not that you misspell half of everything you write.
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoOh, that wasn’t supposed to post,…obviously, like that, but I accidentally hit the button. UGH! Anyway, not only are my spelling skills in excellent standing, but my puntuation, grammar, and sentence-structure abilities are as well. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to achieve things in a proper manner, if that’s what is desired. I LOVE expressing myself through writing, and I love writing to express what’s in my heart. Really and truly, I excelled in my college writing courses. When I take to assuring that I haven’t hurt anyone’s feelings, or offended anyone, in any way, please know I do that because I do care (about people). Something said or done on impulsive action can impact an individual in a negative way, and it can have horrific results, so I take that extra time, and care to ensure that my comments are not harmful. That’s just my way of doing things. Everyone is different, and everyone has different opinions. I just reread this post (update by popular…), and the last comment to me, and I had to reply, especially after I read it more thoroughly.
Um,…being called a priss, or calling someone prissy is NOT a compliment, to me anyway. I just don’t see this, as I did analyze it as such, (as a compliment) and got no feeling of, “hey, that was a nice thing to say..” That word just has a negative tone to it, just like the word “skinny”, or the word “fat,” and the list can keep going. There are other terms that can be used instead: thin, slender, trim, and this list goes on, and on, here, too. Do you see what I’m trying to say? Gosh, I really like communicating with you, via e-mail, and I don’t want that to end. Now that I’m getting to know you better, I’m finding that although we have similar circumstances, we are quite different in our personality styles. That’s totally okay, though because that’s life. I hope that we can still write. I’m still waiting for “that error” to be corrected. Speaking of being upset about that, I wanted to “touch” on that, too.
Yes, I do worry, a lot, but it’s a fact, so there’s nothing for me to be offended by that statement; however, what might be “a little thing” to you, may not be so “little”, to me. That being said, I don’t understand what you mean by, “Let the little things go…” What little things? Like I said, everyone has an opinion, and what’s important to “her” may not be important to “him.” Did I make sense, at all? Whether I did or not, was I offensive? If I was, I desperately apologize. There are reasons for why I do things, reasons for what’s important to me, and I would like to express that in a letter, if that’s okay. When my electronic-messaging address gets rectified, I will write to you that way, as I don’t want to post a comment like this, ever again. Um,…I’m really sorry about this, but I didn’t want this to be forgotten, and I didn’t want to use my address, as “that name” is, uh, supposed to be a sealed signature for,…ah, too hard to explain. In a nutshell, it was a private signature for someone, but that’s it…
Peace, baby face…
Posted 1 year, 9 months agoBrooke (I would really just like to stick to “girl talk” in our “conversations”, if that’s okay with you…) P.S. Please, write to me, by e-mail, so that we have some privacy…Thanks